When you are living on a fast-paced lane and learning process is continuous

It’s been a whiiiiile since my last entry.AGAIN.

So much into the new year..or should I say we are reaching the end of first quarter of the year? Hehe
Well Alhamdulillah for me, though maybe not everything happens as I wish but God has granted some of my prayers
I went through the cyst removal surgery by end of January. Alhamdulillah I am recovering well. Dah boleh tick my wish list! dah service kereta, tukar tayar, para from ikea and flat screen for my room! niceeeeeeeeeeeee

when I was on my 3 weeks medical leave, it was not totally on leave since I still ran through meetings from home plus getting some documents done. Back to office, phewwwwww strictly no time dah...loads come continuously

But I am happy that I am healthy and kickin again!

Nothing interesting so far (or i forgot em already?) again, im still trying to understand things that is happening around me
Or maybe I like to think about relationship..some people said thinking too much is not good. But end of the day I still think and TRY to understand and put a rationale into it. Sedapkan hati sendiri hehehe

Last few weeks I had been hearing looooootsa confessions from my male friends. Here is something to think..

It is understandable that, other than our spouse/partner, in most cases we do have other person that we are more comfortable to talk to. We can talk about everything. For some reasons, sometimes some issues we are not comfortable to talk to our partner/ spouse. I had experience this and also see this happening for years.

But, of course bottom line and end of the day the one that matters the most is definitely your loved ones/partner/spouse and nothing can change that.

But what happen along the way is, when you don’t control the comfy stage or the admiration level, you might fall for the ‘friend’ that you first assume as the comfy friend that you can share everything. You might find out that he/she is a very lovely person, care about you, full of courage and end of the day you know that he/she understands you best and you understand him/her best! And then the devilish (or maybe I should not say this) part of your mind would be thinking how nice would it be if you are actually end up in a relationship- running life together with that ‘friend’

For those who are married/engaged/serious relationship this would be a major problem. First you will not see this coming as a problem/threat but you would never know the latter part of the "friendship”

But rationally everybody have ‘cool buddies’ and doesn’t matter he/she, doesn’t matter whether you are attached to someone but you can/must have a cool buddy

That is why in my culture, or advisable lifestyle would highly prefer us to only share EVERYTHING with our partner/spouse and not anyone else outside the marriage/relationship plus we need to have big gaps between your partner/spouse and cool buddies

Tapi mcm x best kalau takda geng yg boleh ckp kasar seperti gangster/berlawak keterlaluan/ memuji tapi bila mengutuk pun boleh tahan (secara berdepan ok!) ..bukan nya x boleh di praktikkan dgn pasangan tapi mungkin tidak semua org yg boleh all-out atau selamba badak je depan pasangan. And topic yg saya ckp ni, kalau dibincang bersama suami/isteri/tunang tersayang mesti akan menimbulkan pergaduhan sekiranya berlainan pendapat. But, it will not ends there..Haha fening tak?

And based on my real-life experience, when I was married to him, susah nya la nak communicate, nak ckp susah, tulis surat walaupun duduk serumah – tapi dia tak jawab pun, most of the time berlawan sms je, itu pun kalau dia nak jwb, bila balik rumah dari kerja pun tak bnyk benda nak ckp, kadang hati dah marah, tapi tak lepas

so bila tgk one part of all reasons why we failed, and i think this is the main reason, I honestly admitted our communication flow was very very weak.

But amazingly, when we divorced, the communication between us become a lottttt better....jadila seperti statement di atas yg menyatakan perbualan gangster dan kelakuan selamba badak dan sebagainya...makanya kami boleh je berckp pasal apa pun, tak seperti waktu bersama dulu. After all, he knows me inside out, and vice versa

**though our communication was weak, jokes agak bnyk la jugak
(sbb dia selalu mengejek tahap kependekkan saya, pemakaian saya,berat saya dan cuba sedaya upaya untuk kentut di atas peha saya yg berseluar pendek, dia kata “nak bagi lebam kat peha”)

Well, that is my experience, we became good friends. We shared our stuff, we talked abt our shitty days, what we wana get etc don't know what to say...maybe berkawan lebih baik hehehe

well dats MY experience